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FINDING COURAGE WITHIN!

Dana...second from left...in the Orphanage

STARLIGHT STORY

(Age 5)

 Abandoned by our mother when I was three, my two brothers and myself were placed in an orphanage where we were raised for the next 11 years.  It was touch growing up…feeling lost, alone and unloved.

Yet eventually, my mother did finally get back in touch with us, and would occasionally write or call, with promises that she would come visit or come and take us out of there to live with her.  I remember the rare times when I would receive a letter during mail call, and I would gallop all around the dormitory, waving that letter high in the air.  And then there was the time that I actually got to talk with her on the telephone, and she said she’d be coming to get us the next day to go spend the summer with her. I was so excited, I couldn’t’ sleep all night long.

So the next morning I convinced my housemother to let me wait for her on the front steps.  Shortly after breakfast I sat down on the cold stone steps, waiting, watching, hoping.  As each car entered the long circular driveway, my heart would beat a little faster, and I would shield my eyes from the glare of the sun and try and make out who it was.  As each car left with their excited, laughing children…my heart would sink a little lower.  Finally the bell rang for lunch, and I pulled myself to my feet, and went off to the cafeteria.

“Perhaps later” I said to myself!  After lunch, my Housemother, told me that, “No one will be coming to pick you up,” and that I would remain at the home, once again during the long summer vacation.

It was late that afternoon, that I sat in the deep grass and clover on the playground, beneath a huge sweet smelling Magnolia tree.  I watched the few kids that were left, playing a game of Jump Rope.  And as I thought about that morning, the familiar pain of abandonment wrapped it’s tight hold around my heart, and a feeling of hopelessness spread through my soul.

The bell sounded for us to gather in our groups and head inside the building, so I quickly wiped my face and walked across the lawn towards the huge stone steps.   I walked up the steps with the other children, then paused for a moment before entering the doorway.  I turned around to take one last breath of the fresh sweet air before heading inside to the dark, musty smelling dormitories.

It was then that I noticed…there on the horizon in the twilight, just above the tree-line…a single star glittering brightly.  Quickly, I closed my eyes, crossed my fingers, and whispered to myself…“Starlight, star-bright, first star I see tonight.  I wish I may, I wish I might…have the wish I wish tonight.

And I made that wish…just before the hall monitor, smacked me on the backside with a ruler, and ushered me inside.  Later, in the quiet of the night, I held close to that star in my mind as the tears fell like rain down my cheeks.  Muffling my sobs in my pillow, I paused for a moment as a thought suddenly appeared in my mind.  It was three little words that I had heard in a Sunday school church sermon… “Be not afraid!”

Taking a deep breath…I thought about those three words and the light they held within, began to lend me their courage.  Quieting down…I dried my tears with the edge of the sheet, and finally fell asleep, dreaming of my wish on that star.

It was a wish that I repeated, year after year.  And it was a wish that always gave me a glimmer of hope…even in my darkest hour…for as a child, I believed in the power of wishes and stars and the three little words, “Be not afraid.”  And my wish was for love, a place to call home, and a happier tomorrow.

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Cheers!

Dana

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Stress! And How To Combat This. II

Listen with your heart!

When you are stuck in a quandary and cannot see the forest for the trees, it is wise to let an outside source help you with your needs.

Yet as much as you may want to…you cannot listen to someone when your mind is on overload and your heart is on empty.

So when you truly want to make a change that is beyond your ability, or even beyond your comprehension….

What do YOU think you need to do?

All you need to do is focus on what you CAN control, and let another help you with what you cannot.

The truth is simple you see. And it will set you free.

For an outside thought, a helpful hand or the clear insight into your soul can once again make your heart whole.

So take the advice of a friend, take that hand or the advice from your soul. Then listen and act. And once again, you will feel the freedom and joy your negative thoughts stole.

Now…how to act you ask? When you seem frozen in time? That is soon to come as I transcribe to paper my experiences on same and the certain knowledge of this in my mind.

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Experiencing Physical Pain Due To Stress? Feeling a Loss of Chi?


A friend asked me today, what can he do about his back pain. He felt that the pain was being caused by stress, and that his energy flow was being blocked as a result. I thought I’d post my response, in case there are others out there experiencing this. And I encourage your thoughts and feedback on what he can do to help himself!
dana
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My friend,

I’m sorry to hear of your concerns. Yes it’s possible your back is related to stress. It’s possible that the real issue is not in your back, but elsewhere. And you may need some physical manipulation to help unblock the problem. Please do talk with Dr. Mark Cheng in my FB circle. Tell him you’re a friend of mine. I’m sure you’ll be pleased with the feedback you get from him. Chung Hwa Institute http://www.chung-hua.com/ Dr. Cheng with Kettlebells kettlebellslosangeles.blogspot.com/

As for me…I have found different things can help alievate stress. The number one thing, is often…making a ‘change’ in direction or a change in goals. If after ‘hitting my head on the kitchen window’ far too many times, I know I need to take a step back and look at the situation and re-assess whether it’s ‘viable’ or not. Once I make a change…that usually helps to take some of the pressure off.

As for physically, I do find a good workout can do it. Though these days, I prefer going for a good hike w/my dogs or a long ride out in the beautiful places. It gives me a sense of ‘clearing.’

I also find that our effectiveness and use of chi…is tied up in maintaining a proper balance for ourselves. If we put out/give out a lot of energy, but do nothing to regenerate our own soul…then we are working with our cup being half empty, instead of full.

So I find that some very simple things that don’t require much time or energy can truly help. Things like being outside for 10-15 minutes a day (sunshine, fresh air)…playing with my dogs for 10 minutes…watching something on TV/Video that will make me laugh…meditating/visualization, or just listening to soothing music for 10 minutes can also help And for me…I also like putting on some fun/cool music and dancing, when no one is watching. lol (meditative breathing exercise http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mvdiMjSgItg )

The question is…what is it that makes you relax, smile, feel ‘free?’ Find it…and start doing those small, simple things.

Hope that helps in some small way!

Let me know if you have any problem contacting Mark. I’ll have him call you.

God Bless!

Dana
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